As most of you all know Dustyn fits into the category of siblings of special needs children. Lately Dustyn has been asking a ton of questions about Carsyn.
When will he talk?
When will he walk?
Is he potty trained yet?
Do you think when he is 10 years old he will walk and talk and be able to play with me?
The other day he told Kenny and I about a dream he had. He said that him, his cardboard friend and Carsyn went upstairs (we don’t have stairs in our house). That when they went upstairs Carsyn started walking and talking, but that Carsyn could only do it while we are sleeping. Dustyn definitely has an imagination on him, but it was so hard to hear. I think I want Carsyn to walk and talk just as much as Dustyn does. The difference is I know that it may not happen and I am okay with that. I love Carsyn no matter what. I know Dustyn loves Carsyn, but I think it is taking a toll on him. He has been getting a little upset when we spend too much time with Carsyn and not much time with him. We both do try to set aside some time just for Dustyn.
I really need some advice on how to talk to Dustyn. I want to make sure I tell him the right stuff. Up to now I have just been telling him that Carsyn has Cerebral Palsy and Special Needs. About how Carsyn does things slower then most kids, and that he may not be able to walk and talk. Even though I say this Dustyn still brings it up. It really breaks my heart because I know that he doesn’t quite understand why his brother isn’t like his friends brother and sisters.
Dustyn has even said that he wants another brother or sister so that he can play with them. I tell him he can still play with Carsyn it will just be in a different way.
What do you tell Siblings of Special Needs Children?