If you didn’t watch this video last week you should. It is short and hilarious.
Continuing from last week. We were talking about how to make your love last and that we are all broken. We essentially are all self-centered. For me this sermon hit me like a ton of bricks. Everything our Pastor was saying was true. I could feel deep down in my heart that indeed I am self-centered, even though I have tried to deny it.
I did not think that I was self-centered. I mean I have two kids. I “thought” I put them and my husband first. Not true at all. If I am doing something on the computer, or around the house, etc and Dustyn calls for me I say, ” Just a minute.” A minute later he calls again, “Just a minute!” I say again. This will go on and on until I finally give in. Carsyn needs to be stretched at least 3 times a day. I maybe stretch him once a day. Just other things have been getting in the way. As for Kenny and our love, I have not been doing what makes him happy. I have not had dinner ready for him when he gets home most nights. I rarely clean the house unless someone is coming over. I hardly ever spend time just talking and hanging out with him. Most of the time I am on the computer or my phone. After you read all of that how can you say, “Sarah you are not self-centered.” You can’t because it is not true.
The Pastor gave an example of when he sprung his ankle. How he had crutches and everyone in school gave him attention and how he expected it. This is like me with Carsyn, I feel like the whole world should revolve around us and our problems. I don’t think that ALL the time because I know there are a lot more people that have it worse off then us. It does cross my mind though. Kenny has told me several times in the last few weeks that I can’t just expect everything to be given to me. I know this to be true but I don’t act like that. I want to be better, I want to do stuff for others and give back. He basically said, people that have been hurt or broken have a hard time not just thinking about themselves. I was hurt and broken as a kid, I won’t go into details, but I think this affects how I am now.
Sorry this kind of went off on a tangent. Back to the message. He said when self gets at the center it is like an acid and it eats away at the foundation of your love. If God is at the center it build your love up. What you need to do is find out what they want or need and do it. With Kenny, I think his love language (which we will talk about in the next part) is for me to do acts for him. Like when I do his laundry, cook, clean, etc. That makes him happy and feel loved. Mine is when he helps me around the house and buys me stuff. he he.
I liked what he said about Valentine’s Day and love. Saying that love is much more then flowers, candy, and going out to eat and to the movies. It takes a man to stop being rude, to show patience, to be kind, to never make her feel like she isn’t exactly what you wanted.
If you want to make your love last you need to be filled with God’s spirit and not be self centered. You should treat/love your husband/wife like you love Jesus. Be spirit filled.
I hope that you will listen to the whole sermon because he explains it a lot better then me. I also hope that you will join me next week for the next part of the series.